“I am sorry, but there is no chance of you getting pregnant without IVF. You have had too many ectopic pregnancies that it is best we remove your last fallopian tube and just do IVF.”
Those heart crunching words were words my husband and I heard after our 3rd ectopic pregnancy. I already had my left fallopian tube removed after my first ectopic pregnancy and had medical induced abortions with the other two ectopic’s in hopes to save the right fallopian tube (which they said after surgery on the first, was in good condition). When the Dr said this to us, every part of my body screamed NO! My gut knew there had to be other options. Bodies heal themselves every day. We cut our finger, the skin grows back, we break our leg, the bone mends itself, the human body is an amazing structure and miracles happen all the time. My husband walked out feeling disappointed and defeated, I walked out feeling inspired to prove the medical world wrong. Anyone who knows me would testify that when I put my mind to something, nothing will stop me, and that is just what I did.
How, you ask? Lots and lots of positive thinking, and a belief that my body could heal. I tried many natural therapies and I believed that all of it would work, even when the skeptics crossed my path. After my second ectopic pregnancy, I began my research and started to make a plan. I began by evaluating my lifestyle. I was in a job that I was not fully in love with. It was a great job and paid well, but it did not inspire me and I was not passionate about it. In fact it was the complete opposite, I was stressed, I was negative, and I was completely exhausted by 5pm. I loved the people I worked with, but this was not my passion. So, I jumped without a bridge…I quit my job with nothing lined up (thank god for supportive husbands).
I had recently got my yoga teaching certificate and decided that I would try teaching for a while until I either made a go of it or figured out what my next step would be. Yoga had been my guiding light through many difficult times, so I figured that it and meditation would be the start of journey to healing. I adjusted my practice to ensure I was adding healing to my womb, was slowing down, and addressing the emotional body as much as I was addressing the physical.
After my 3rd ectopic pregnancy, I made a strong effort to have a daily meditation practice. Every day I sat for 5-10 minutes and visualized these little janitor men in yellow suits with tiny push brooms scrubbing and scraping out all the built up gunk in my right tube. For the next three months, each day I saw a bit more cleaned away, until the day I went for my HSG test. On that day, before my appointment, I visualized the tube clean and the little men buffing and shinning it to perfection. At my appointment that afternoon the Dr asked me if I was sure that I actually had ectopic pregnancies in my remaining fallopian tube because there was no sign of any trauma or scare tissue. She said that she had never seen that before. (Skipping a head…I got pregnant with my daughter a month later)
My change in attitude and my goal to stay positive were definitely primary factors in me conceiving successfully, but they were not the only things that I did. I did acupuncture Chinese medicine, visceral manipulation and maya abdominal massage. I started opening up and was honest with people close to me about what was going on and that I had lost three babies. I allowed myself to mourn to heal and I always came back to believing that it would happen. I had a great teacher who introduced me to the power of manifestation and ”The Law of Attraction” by Esther Hicks, which I listened to the audiobook in my car for three weeks. If I read something and it seemed far out there, then I would try it (like carrying around a rose quartz rock in my pocket). I did not give up and I did not let any set back change my thinking. I also think it is important to note that I did not let the Dr’s pressure me into procedures I was not ready for. My husband and I made a plan and had a timeline set before we would look at other options like IVF or adoption.
In the end, my determination and belief that it was possible paid off. I had a baby girl shortly after my 3rd ectopic and then two years later had another little girl. I learned from this experience that the body is special and the mind is beyond powerful. If you can believe it enough to feel it in every fiber of your body without any doubt, then it can happen. Trust yourself…trust your body…trust your heart!
Kate teaches a variety of styles from Traditional Hatha and Yin to Specialty Therapeutic classes in fertility, pregnancy and postnatal. She is certified at a RYT-500 and currently is working on completing her Yoga Therapy certification.